Every sex scene should include...

 Some people find writing sex easy some find it difficult.
Things I need to remember or: every sex scene should:

a) advance the story

b) be a point of change for at least one of the characters.

c) Show the mind and heart set of the characters as well as what they see and do.

d) Actions reveal personalities and personalities can be revealed via actions.

e) What they seek must fit in the drive of the story as a whole

f) Sex is a dialogue between two minds.


Sometimes it helps to outline the same scene from the other person's point of view.
Always keep the tone and style of the story.

Be sure you know:

a) what each of your characters wants as they go into the scene,
b) what their point of change is, and
c) where they are at the end of said scene

I must remember to think of a sex scene as a point of mental and emotional change explained in physical terms. The action may well be similar to every other sex scene ever written, but the difference should be in my explanation of the character’s experience. And, of course, my writing style will also have a part to play.